Beauty. Where does ones beauty truly speak from? From that new purse or that new hair cut? Lest beauty be a shallow extension for its use shall be forgotten. Let us not forget it, not now, not ever.
May I offer you some words of kindness? I've known you since we were 15. Now that said, I know that your gender identity is something that has, at times, been trying and that it takes a lot of soul searching to be at peace with yourself sometimes. I have to wonder why you feel compelled this way though? If you do this because you don't like who you are now then I suggest that you don't rush into it. I may not be in the same situation but I do know that you should never do something rash because you don't like something about yourself. Progress in anything takes a certain amount of finesse. You have to work at it. Now sometimes people undergo these processes because they don't feel right about themselves but before taking those steps I firmly believe you need to tackle the root of that feeling and not just the impulses that feeling causes. You can think about something till your head falls off but that doesn't mean that you've done anything productive about it. Now I want to be the good friend and say "Whatever makes you happy I support", and I do support whatever you decide charles, as long as you go about it the best way you can. I'm not going to lie to you, when you have in the past told me things like this and even now it worries me, not because it's wrong ( it isn't) but because I wonder if you want to do it for the wrong reasons. My best suggestion, and I hope you don't take it in a negative light, is to talk to a therapist who specializes in this area. Someone who can guide you a bit and sort out your feelings to be on a solid ground with the decision. At one point or another it's a very healthy thing for everyone to see a councellor to learn to better themselves and better understand their life. Be on a solid ground about this before you rush into it. Seriously. The things we do when we're young if we haven't thought it through enough are the things we have to learn to deal with for the rest of our lives. And life can be a long time if you aren't happy. You have a lot of questions to ask yourself and I think it would be best if you were asking the right people. Whatever decision you come to, if you do that I`m sure will be the better one for ya ;) And if you do take my advice and talk to someone, don`t worry about it. everyone does for different reasons. You don`t "need help", you're just asking someone some questions and advice who deals with your dillemmas everyday. It's someone who has probablly had many of the same decisions to make and if not, knows a lot of people who has. By asking for anyones comments you're opening the door for people to raise an issue about something they may not understand and if you need advice the best thing to do is get the right advice :) Love ya hunny!
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May I offer you some words of kindness? I've known you since we were 15. Now that said, I know that your gender identity is something that has, at times, been trying and that it takes a lot of soul searching to be at peace with yourself sometimes. I have to wonder why you feel compelled this way though? If you do this because you don't like who you are now then I suggest that you don't rush into it. I may not be in the same situation but I do know that you should never do something rash because you don't like something about yourself. Progress in anything takes a certain amount of finesse. You have to work at it. Now sometimes people undergo these processes because they don't feel right about themselves but before taking those steps I firmly believe you need to tackle the root of that feeling and not just the impulses that feeling causes. You can think about something till your head falls off but that doesn't mean that you've done anything productive about it. Now I want to be the good friend and say "Whatever makes you happy I support", and I do support whatever you decide charles, as long as you go about it the best way you can. I'm not going to lie to you, when you have in the past told me things like this and even now it worries me, not because it's wrong ( it isn't) but because I wonder if you want to do it for the wrong reasons. My best suggestion, and I hope you don't take it in a negative light, is to talk to a therapist who specializes in this area. Someone who can guide you a bit and sort out your feelings to be on a solid ground with the decision. At one point or another it's a very healthy thing for everyone to see a councellor to learn to better themselves and better understand their life. Be on a solid ground about this before you rush into it. Seriously. The things we do when we're young if we haven't thought it through enough are the things we have to learn to deal with for the rest of our lives. And life can be a long time if you aren't happy. You have a lot of questions to ask yourself and I think it would be best if you were asking the right people. Whatever decision you come to, if you do that I`m sure will be the better one for ya ;) And if you do take my advice and talk to someone, don`t worry about it. everyone does for different reasons. You don`t "need help", you're just asking someone some questions and advice who deals with your dillemmas everyday. It's someone who has probablly had many of the same decisions to make and if not, knows a lot of people who has. By asking for anyones comments you're opening the door for people to raise an issue about something they may not understand and if you need advice the best thing to do is get the right advice :)
Love ya hunny!
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